Life Quote of the Day - Say No to others and Yes to Yourself

Life Quote of the Day:

“When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.”

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By Cassandra George Sturges

I had finally disciplined myself to wake up at 4:30 AM to meditate daily, write daily, and exercise 3 times a week. I had finally become the person I always wanted to be. Every night I went to sleep with the biggest smile on my face.

I had started writing book 3 in my Jungle Beauty Goddess science fiction series and the muses were pouring the words onto the page. I was in the zone of self-actualization.

Something happened on my job and I was asked to replace a colleague. I didn’t want to do it, and I was under no obligation, or threat of losing my job if I had said no. However, it has always been my nature to say yes to others, even if it meant saying no to my own dreams, needs, and desires.

I am the oldest sibling and I have to younger brothers. When we were children, my mother would tell me to set a good example and be a positive role model for my younger brothers by accepting the burnt sausage, the broken cookies, or whatever else my younger brothers refused to take because it wasn’t perfect.

My parents encouraged me to be the “responsible one”—“You are my big girl,” show your little brothers how they are supposed to conduct themselves; they would reason with me. I was conditioned to ignore what I really wanted and to be disconnected to and unaware of my own feelings as the oldest child.

Ironically, my brothers were being rewarded for bad behavior by getting what they wanted when they cried, whined, or misbehaved; and I was being punished for good behavior by getting what I didn’t want—the broken and burnt cookies. Unfortunately, this has been the story of my life.

I learned at an early age that pleasing other people was more important than pleasing myself. I knew that my parents loved me, but I felt that I had to earn their love—unlike my brothers whom I felt, they loved them unconditionally.

I have spent over have of my life saying yes to others and saying no to myself in hopes that others would at the very least like me—but now I am done with that – I hope. I don’t have grandchildren yet ...

Life Quotes Practical Application

1.      No one gets to have everything at the same time. If you say yes to something—you are always always, always, saying no to something else even if you are not currently aware of what you are saying no to. It may be as small as watching your favorite television show, or cutting 10 minutes of time from your bubble bath.

2.    Say “no” to everyone and everything until you have said yes and committed yourself to your own dreams. If you need to finish school, why are you volunteering your time to other projects? Once you have set goals and developed a routine to accomplish those goals—only then will you know if you have time to say yes to other people’s endeavors. So many people say yes to other people because they are procrastinating from doing what they really know in their hearts that they should be doing.

3.    You are responsible for your own happiness. People who really love you are not going to stop loving you or respecting you because you decline their offer. If someone stops being your friend or talking to you because you told them “No” you have lost nothing but a headache.

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 My parents encouraged me to be the “responsible one”—“You are my big girl,” show your little brothers how they are supposed to conduct themselves; they would reason with me. Ironically, my brothers were being rewarded for bad behavior by getting what they wanted when they cried, whined, or misbehaved; and I was being punished for good behavior by getting what I didn’t want—the broken and burnt cookies…

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Life Quote of the Day -- Be Yourself

Life Quote of the Day

“Be Yourself people don’t have to like you, and you don’t have to care.”  Unknown

When I was a kid, I would come home from school crying to my parents about some of the cruel things that my classmates would say about me. I was mostly teased about my skin color being too dark. My mother would tell my brothers and I to say to the kids who teased us; “Sticks and stones my break my bones, but words could never hurt me.”

I bet there is not a single person reading this post who was not told this saying as a child. But, most importantly-- did you find out later that this little saying could not be further from the truth?

The quote of the Day “Be Yourself people don’t have to like you, and you don’t have to care.”   Ahhh—no we don’t have to care but how other people feel about us—however, unfortunately, our earth suit has been designed for us to care about what other people think of us. (Man, I wish I could disconnect this button.)

If you think about most of the most hurtful things that happened to you, I bet the things that hurt the most was not when you cut your finger while chopping onions; or when you fell off your bike going downhill; or when you dropped the can of beans on your baby toe. The most hurtful thing that have ever been done to you is probably something that a teacher, friend, mate, or parent has said to crush your soul intentionally or not intentionally.

People tell you to be yourself. However, this is not what they really mean. Society says be yourself—but you need to be this size and weigh this amount in order to be considered physically attractive. Parents say be yourself. But what they really mean is, “I want you to be yourself within the unstated boundaries of following the life course that I find acceptable. I hope that being yourself does not mean that you are going to be an artist, actor, or waitress.”

We as a society tell people every day to be themselves—but we don’t really mean it all.

Your mate tells you, I want you to be yourself, but… I hate the way you smack your food when you are eating. I don’t like how flirtatious you are with other people. (You called it charming when you first met.)  I don’t like the fact that you watch sports all day or reality television shows. Even though this person had these characteristics when you first started dating them… over time, when we are comfortable in the relationship we start to ask people to change. We begin to tell them that being why you are is… frankly not enough.

We learn early in life that being our true selves has negative consequences. The first people we learn to please are our parents. When we eat when we are not hungry, our parents praise us. When we share our toys and candy, that we really (really) did not want to share our parents praise us. The more we give in to our parent’s wishes the more it seems like they smile at us, play with us, and show us affection.

We learn early in life that our perception of self, self-worth, and self-esteem are tied to how other people view us—not how we view ourselves, not what we really want to do. Then we spend the rest of our adult lives trying to find balance… trying to reconnect to our authentic truth. Most of us have no idea who we are or what we believe in by the time we are 7-years-old.

How do you find the courage to be yourself—when the whole world is telling you who you should be? Here are some pointers to consider.

 Life Quotes | Practical Application

1.      Only 1% of the population are truly being themselves. And I guarantee you that these are people who reside in mental institutions. They don’t wear clothes when they don’t feel like it; they release themselves publicly; they don’t use utensils when eating mashed potatoes—they do whatever they want --whenever they feel like—except escape from the mental hospital. None of us are completely being ourselves. Find balance with being who you are and how it affects the people around you. Yes, we all want to indulge in an adult melt down every now then—but what are the consequences?

2.    One day you are going to leave this planet. What do you want new inhabitants of this planet to know about your stay on Earth?  I believe that when we say “be yourself” our collective higher selves are asking you to be clear about your soul’s purpose on this mission, and then execute without a single doubt, the biblical scripture “to thine own self be true.” Being yourself ultimately means that you must believe in yourself—even if no one else does. The next time you tell someone to be himself or herself, contemplate within your own spirit what your true expectations are. Do you really mean it?

3.     People who love you may have the best intentions, and think they know what you should do with your life. Only listen to people under these critical circumstances: Are they living their own dreams? Or are they living a life created for them by other people? Do they live in fear of failure? Have they accomplished their highest aspirations? Do they love you unconditionally, win, or lose? Have they ever done what you want to do? Do they live outside of their comfort zones? Are they an expert in what you want to do? What do they want in exchange for your obedience? What will they gain or lose directly and indirectly from you becoming your own greatest version of yourself?

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Life Quote of the Day - Deceit is not Love

Quote of the Day:

Love  Quotes—Deceit is not Love

 “Love is many things, but it is never deceitful. Nothing  toxic comes from genuine love. Remember that.”  MYLKN Honey

There is nothing more attractive than a man who treats his women like a queen. He opens the door for her. He financially provides for her. He is emotionally supportive to her. He is respectful to her. Women adore men who honor, cherish, and respect their wives and girlfriends. Unfortunately, these are the type of men who become prey to single women who are seeking a relationship with a quality man who is not afraid of making a commitment.

What women don’t understand is that when they date a man who they know is already in a committed relationship—he is no longer the “quality man” that they initially admired. 

Once he cheats on his wife or girlfriend to be with you-- you erode all of the essential qualities that made you fall in love with him in the first place. 

This scenario applies to both men and women, but for now, I just want to focus on women. He is not innocent—but neither are you. This is why I love this life quote, by MYKLN Honey, “Love is many things, but it is never deceitful. Nothing toxic comes from genuine love. Remember that.”

Deep in your heart, you will never trust him in fear that some other woman will invade the boundaries of your relationship just as you did when you met him. 

When my son was a young boy, he loved fireflies. He enjoyed watching them light up in the summer evenings. He loved fireflies so much that he would catch them in plastic cups. Then he would place a plastic saran wrap covering on top of the cup and secure it with a rubber band. Then he would punch holes in the top to give the fireflies oxygen.

He was always disappointed the next day because they would never light up again, before eventually dying.

When you take something or someone away from their element, you snuff out their magnetic light. The bright light that attracted you to them cannot shine at its brightest-- unless it is being authentic and honest.

Life Quotes |  Practical Application

1.      If you see a man (person) in a relationship that you are attracted to and he has all of the qualities that you want in a boyfriend or husband—know that by pursuing him you are changing what you love about him. He no longer embodies the ethical character traits of the type of man you “thought he was.”

2.      He is never going to love you the way he loves her—(his wife or girlfriend) because you are not her. You don’t know what qualities this woman is bringing to the table that make him come home to dinner every night. You just might be a rendezvous snack during a rough patch in their relationship.

3.      When you steal something, it never feels like it truly belongs to you. You will be constantly looking over your shoulders to see who he is texting, emailing, and talking to you. But, the woman you will fear the most is the woman you stole him from.

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