Saturday, January 18, 2014

The To Do List



On the to-do-list, do not ever write, “Write kindle book” as a task, it you should always break the task down to small tasks that can be accomplished in 3, 6, or 9, month’s goal or an annual goal. The human brain sees write a book and does not know where to begin, so it shuts down altogether. Here is a To do List Template for writing a book.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Sahara 
Ruler of the Mind, Knowledge, Rational Thinking, and Information

By Cassandra George Sturges


Dear Jungle Beauty Goddess Sahara,

The To Do List that I write every night before going to bed includes everything that I want to accomplish the next day. The only problem is that even though I complete the majority of tasks on my daily to-do-list, I am not one single step closer to writing my book—which is my ultimate dream goal.

Taking care of my husband and children is my first priority, followed closely by my responsibilities as the director of a child welfare agency. Not only is my job important because of the children’s lives who are saved every day from neglect and abuse; it is also my livelihood and helps put food on the table and savings for my own  kids’ college education.

If finding the time to write a book was easy everyone would do it. My family and friends make jokes about me never writing my book and this really hurts my feelings. I feel like they are implying that I am lazy or just a big kid with a pipe dream; but this is far from the true.

I wish I had never shared my dreams of writing a book with anyone. But the thing that is most devastating of all, is that every night when I write the to do list, I transfer over to the next day “write book.”

Do you think that maybe I should postpone my dream of writing a book to later on in life-- after my kids have gone away to college? Or maybe I could write a book after I retire from my job because I will have time to devote to writing every day without being disturbed?
The thought of taking it off of my daily list of things to do, makes my stomach hurt. In my heart, I really want to write my book, I just don’t know how to get started without neglecting my family and / or my job.

Sincerely,

Done with To Do Lists



Dear Done with To Do Lists,

It is virtually impossible for the average human to just “write a book,” get a degree, become a doctor, lawyer, actor, or teacher. The old adage is: How do you eat an dinosaur?-- One bite at a time. This means that you need to develop a plan on how you will organize not only your time, but break the project down into tiny small bites.

Let’s work backwards from your goal of writing a book. Your first goal should be finding the topic that your want to write about, if you have not already done so. Your first task on your to do list can be to find three to five topics that you could possibly write about. Sleep on the decision. There are will always be critics, and naysayers who will not like you, your book, or your topic. So write to yourself. What information do you wish was more readily available? Be your own audience and overtime you will attract kindred spirits.

After you have selected your topic, narrow it down to sections or possible chapters.  Your chapters are not written in stone, you can change them as you get further along in the process. So don’t stress out thinking that it has to be perfect.

Determine how much research will be needed to write your book for each chapter. Set a goal to research 5-7 books each week or day, depending on your schedule. Make sure your tasks are measurable, otherwise your results will be vague and you won’t feel like you are moving closer to your goal.  Take meticulous notes, outlining each chapter with your ideas.  For example, you may take a week to outline each chapter.  On your to do list, write: Outline 2 pages for chapter 1 on Monday, 2 pages for chapter one on Tuesday, etc…  By the end of the week chapter one will be completely outlined. Use the same process for the other chapters until all of your chapters are outlined.

After you have outlined your chapters, on your daily to-do-list, write down: “type 2-3 pages for chapter one on Monday,” Write 2-3 pages on chapter one on Tuesday,” do this for each day of the week until you complete chapter one. Use this same process to complete each chapter.


Once you breakdown your goal so that it is doable, you may have to give up television for a few months until you complete your book.  Do not put off writing your book if this is something that you really want to accomplish. There will always be an excuse not to go after the deepest desires of your heart. Delegate responsibilities at work and home, say no to social invites, and do not engage in social media until your book is done.  When you begin working on your book, your self-esteem and self-respect will soar in ways that you can never imagine. 

On your to-do-list, do not ever write. “Write book” as a task, it you should always break the task down to small tasks that can be accomplished in 3, 6, or 9, months goal or an annual goal. The human brain sees write a book and does not know where to begin, so it shuts down altogether.

Sincerely,

Jungle Beauty Goddess Sahara

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Saturday, January 4, 2014

Why Dwyane Wade Cheated and Gabrielle Union Forgave Him



If you look at what has happened between Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union from the limited perspective of being a human on earth—it looks like he is the perpetrator and she is a victim. But I am going to answer your question from a spiritual perspective.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Namib -  
Ruler of the Soul, Divine Purpose, & Destiny
Via the Imagination of Cassandra George Sturges


Dear Jungle Beauty Goddess Namib,

It behooves me why someone as gorgeous, talented, and intelligent as Gabrielle Union would remain with a man who cheated on her with another woman and conceived a child. For God sake, the man did not have the decency and respect for himself or her to use a condom.

Gabrielle Union is so beautiful that any man would feel lucky to have her. I think her decision to remain with a cheating scum, like Dwyane Wade lowers the self of esteem of women all over the world. When are women going wake up and demand respect?


And what about that woman who cheated with him, Aja Metoyer? When are women going stop stabbing each other in the back? I am quite sure this woman knew that Mr. Wade, a famous basketball player who plays for the Miami Heat of the NBA.  I also read that this Aja woman has two daughters by Damon Wayans Jr. –Isn’t this the definition of a gold-digger?

If Gabrielle can’t keep a man faithful to her is there any hope for other women?
My question to you Jungle Beauty Goddesses, do all men cheat?

Sincerely,

Can Never Trust Men Again


Dear Can Never Trust Men Again:

If you look at what has happened between Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union from the limited perspective of being a human on earth—it looks like he is the perpetrator and she is a victim. But I am going to answer your question from a spiritual perspective.


You don’t know what Ms. Union’s or Mr. Wade’s prayers, purpose, and prospects are for their divine plan.  Gabrielle is a 41-year-old actress in a career that demands physical perfection and flawless beauty. What are the chances that she would be looking to have a baby in the near future?  Mr. Wade, 31-year-old, basketball player has custody of his two sons and he cares for another young male relative full-time. It is obvious that this young man loves children and is a good provider.

Mr. Wade is not the only person who has conceived a child from the “break” in their relationship; Ms. Union has also received a “child” through creative energy. Her child is her new series “Being Mary Jane” that airs January 7, 2014 at 10pm, 9C.

The publicity that she is getting from the perceived betrayal of her 4-year-relationship with boyfriend, Dwyane Wade, will bring millions of viewers to her series that would have otherwise been uninterested in tuning in the watch “Being Mary Jane”.  Love tinged with infidelity and cheating is a potent elixir that captivates public interest. It is in the playbook fame 101.The Universe works in mysterious ways. 


You will be surprised at how many humans really get what they want deep down in their souls. There are no mistakes.  Even the woman, Aja Metoyer, is not a bad person or gold digger. You don’t know what her prayers, purpose, and prospects are either.  So many women have babies by men every day, who can’t afford to buy the baby diapers or milk. Maybe there is a lesson that more women need to learn from her—instead criticizing and judging other people’s lives.

Gabrielle Union …prepared, remembered, or attracted the experience of being betrayed by her lover and gracefully accepting his child in her role as Geneva Wade in the 2008 movie, Cadillac Records starring Adrien Brody and Beyonce Knowles. The imagination is the most powerful creator of reality. What humans think about for over 17 seconds begins to manifest in the universe; if there are no oppositional thoughts. You will be surprised at home many celebrities’ lives begin to mirror roles they have played.

And to answer your question, “Do all men cheat?”  No. The trend around the world now is that more women are cheating on men.

Sincerely,

Jungle Beauty Goddess Namib

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Monday, December 30, 2013

Your Boyfriend’s Best Friend is a Woman--Can You Trust Her




The advantage of your boyfriend or husband having a best friend who happens to be a woman is that he will typically ask her "the female perspective" on important issues such as love and relationships… including whether or not he should break up with you, marry you, or apologize about the last argument you had in your relationship.  A woman best friend’s ultimate power is that she was a part of your boyfriend or husband’s life before you came and will likely be a part of his life --if or when you leave. If she is your ally you have got it made. However, if she is your enemy… watch your back.

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Dear Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari, 

No matter how many times my boyfriend assures me that she is just his best friend-- there is something about her presence in my man's life that makes my heart ache with jealousy. Why does he have a need to talk to her, text her, hang out with her? Now that I am in a committed relationship with him -- why does he need to remain in communication with another woman who makes him laugh; and worst of all-- his family adores her?
I know that they have been best friends since middle school and now we are all in our late twenties, I am very uncomfortable with this relationship. To be honest with you, if they were not "just best friends" they would make such a cute couple and this is what bothers me the most.

Now that my boyfriend has me-- does he really need a "woman for his best friend?" What could she possibly give him that I can't? Does he trust and love her more than me? Is she a threat to our relationship? Does she secretly have a crush on my man? Is she waiting in the wings to take my place? Who has the most emotional power over my man me or his female best friend?

Sincerely,

Do not Trust His Female Best Friend





Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari -  Inspirational Life Story
Ruler of the Heart, Love, & Relationships
Via the Imagination of Cassandra George Sturges

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Dear Do Not Trust His Female Best Friend:

Well there are advantages to both relationships depending on how he truly feels about his female best friend--FBF.

The advantage of being his wife or girlfriend is that you get to make love to him, kiss him, see his nude body, go to family functions, attend work-related events, spend holidays together, set relationship boundaries such as expecting him to call or come home at certain times of the day.

His FBF may never get to know him in the intimate way that you do. She may never know the taste of his kisses, or the way he whispers, "I love you" after having an orgasm; but her position of power in his life is a lot deeper than a sexual relationship. Her relationship with your man is not as intense, potent and rich with passion but this is exactly what gives her the upper hand in your man's life because she is not having arguments with him fueled by jealousy over who called, or fights over who left the toilet seat up, drank the last of the milk without replacing it, splitting the bills, sharing the remote, or in-law drama.

So what does his female best friend have to offer him that you can't? -- The most honest and truest part of his heart and soul. Yes, your man tells his FBF all the things that he could never, ever, tell you in a million years because it would break your heart. His FBF is privy to how he really feels about your body-whether he really thinks you need to lose weight; she knows his truest intentions for your relationship, and all of the other women that he is attracted to.

An advantage of being the FBF is that he will typically ask her "the female perspective" on important issues such as love including whether or not he should break up with you, marry you, or apologize about the last argument you had in your relationship. Her ultimate power is that she was a part of his life before you came and will likely be a part of his life if or when you leave.



As long as his FBF does not have sex with him - she will always hold a powerful, meaningful position in his life. Sex complicates relationships because it is an emotional chemical that either bonds or destroys a couple based on other variables in the relationship. If he is not having sex with his FBF this gives him the emotional freedom to share with her the details about his sex life that he wouldn't even be comfortable discussing with a male friend.

Can you really trust this woman that your man confides in and trusts with all of his little secrets including how he really feels about you? All FBFs are not a threat to your relationship but herewith listed as to whether you can trust or not trust his best friend who happens to be a woman.

Signs that you Cannot Trust Your Man's Female Best Friend:

1.  They have been friends for less than 2 years.



2.  She is the girl that he couldn't sleep with so he settled  for "friendship" status. 


3. His parents, especially his mother, sisters - women in his family love her! 


4. She calls him all the time to do little things for her such as pick up her kids, take her to appointments and fix things around the house.


5. She constantly pulls rank in your interactions with her by reminding you that she was a part of his life before you arrived and that she will be there when you leave.



6. She gets pleasure out of watching you cringe when she favorably talks about his previous girlfriends.


7. You know that his female best friend thinks that he can do better than you.


8. Your man always takes his FBF's side whenever there is any type of disagreement.


9. She does not have a boyfriend or husband and is not seriously dating or looking for a mate--because she is leaving space open in her life for someone else--- your man.


10. You caught your man checking her out when he thought no one was looking.


11. She goes out of her way to wear sexy, provocative clothes whenever she is around your man.


12. She hesitates or shows a slight discomfort with letting you sit in the front seat of the car.

These are signs that your Boyfriend’s female best friend is an ally and that you can trust her:

1. She respects your relationship by not contacting him constantly over little things because she knows that he is in a serious relationship.


2. She makes it a point to invite you to all functions,   parties and events.


3. Your male partner tells you that he is sorry because his female best friend told him that he was wrong and she took your side without having talked to you.


4. Your man feels extremely comfortable bringing you around her and he acts like himself in her presence.


5. She gives off a sister-platonic vibe when she is around your man. She doesn't dress to impress him.


6. She is in a loving, healthy relationship, dating, or seeking a relationship.


7. They had sex at least 5 years ago and they both have moved past a sexual attraction to the other.


8. She is pleasant and respectful to you over the phone.


9. She introduces you as his wife or girlfriend, not his "date."


10. She jumps in the backseat of the car when he is driving—and would have it no other way.


11. She loves you too. You feel like she is your sister.


12. She turns down invitations to certain events, functions, and parties—she knows her place in his life—is after you.



Sincerely,



Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari


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