What are Signs that I am Making a Good Decision

Dear Sahara,

How do I know if I am in the right job, relationship, or degree program? What signs should I look for to know that I am where I belong?

Confused

Dear Confused,

Many people believe that when things are going wrong or not the way that they expect them to go, they are in the wrong career, wrong education program, and wrong relationship—however this is not always true.

Imagine a tree that has been in one spot for many years. Why do you think that tree is still in the same spot?

You know that you are in the right place if you are still growing, evolving, and learning. It is not a question of how long should you remain in a particular job or relationship, what matters the most is whether or not you are continuing to grow.  You belong where you are getting stronger, wiser, smarter and more mature. You belong where you are growing psychologically, physically, spiritually and emotionally.

If you are learning strategies on how to perform a task better—this is where you belong. If you are in a relationship with a person who is encouraging and supporting you to follow your dreams, eat healthy, stop smoking, or abusing substances—you are where you belong. If you are struggling with a few required classes that you must pass in order to obtain a degree in field that you love—you are where you belong. 

Your difficult classes are giving you opportunities to sharpen your study skills, test your mental toughness and learn to adapt to new information.  If you are learning how to get along with people from diverse religions, cultures, and political parties; and you are socially uncomfortable—this is where you belong.

It is time to move on when you can predict who will live or die, without bothering to search for a new method, herb, or technology that could change the outcome. People frequently died of diseases in the past that are now curable.  It is time to move on when you can easily predict which students will pass or fail in your class—without doing everything in your power to develop or create a new way for that child to learn.

It is time to move on when you must stop growing so that you do not out shine or appear smarter or more successful than your mate or friends.  You should move on when you see injustices, unfair laws, and mistreatment of others, and you feel that things will never change. When you stop growing, you become the disease that causes others to die, long before they are physically dead.

The key thing to remember is that where you belong is not determined by how easy or difficult a task or situation is but whether or not being there is making you a better person.

Trees die when where they exist no longer supports their growth with the perfect environmental nutrients. Trees die when they lose their water supply;  or if there roots are saturated with too much water; when they do not get enough sun light or too much sun light; and or an invasion by a parasite.  Trees die when they stop growing new leaves. 

Jungle Beauty Goddess Sahara

Transmitted via Cassandra George Sturges

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My Husband is in Love with Another Woman

Dear Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari,

I believe with all of my heart that my husband is in love with another woman. I don’t have any proof. He always comes home on time. No money is missing from our bank accounts. He is always where he says he is going to be. The sex is still amazing between us--- accept when he is making love to me, I feel like he is suckling the breasts of a woman with much bigger breasts than my own. When he kisses my buttocks he massages my butt cheeks as if they are extremely large. I am a very petite woman.  He makes love to me passionately, but it feels like he is making love to someone else.

I have asked my husband whether or not he was having an affair with his co-worker who is a very beautiful and voluptuous woman—but he completely denied it and was very offended by me asking him this question. He said that he has never cheated on me and that he never will.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari, everyone thinks that I am crazy when I try to explain to them that I know that my husband is in love with another woman even though I have no physical evidence.  Do you think that I am insecure about my body and imagining that he is making love to another woman? He is otherwise a good husband, father, and provider.

I can’t keep this up. I am starting to resent having sex with him because I feel like his kisses belong to another woman.

Please help me.

Sincerely,

Still in love

Dear Still-in-love,

If you feel in your heart that your husband is in love with another woman—believe your heart. Your heart will never lie to you. It sounds like your husband is having an emotional affair with another woman that he may or may not be aware of. I don’t believe that your husband is “in love” with this woman, but it does sound like he is sexually attracted to her.

The in-love emotion that you are describing is a neurological chemical elixir of neurotransmitters that saturate the human brain taking the same neurological pathway as cocaine or dopamine. The in-love feeling typically last a very short period. Humans cannot control these feelings, but they can control whether or not they choose to act on these feeling.

From your letter it sounds like your husband has not physically consummated his sexual desire for this other woman ; but is projecting his sexual attraction to her while making love to you. To some degree this is what people do when they view naked people in sexual positions to enhance sex with their partner.

Your husband loves you, but you need to change your sexual routine with him so that his brain is not free to think of other women. When you take the same route to work, you stop looking at the scenery. You start thinking about other tasks. But a person who is driving your route to work for the first time will pay close attention to the scenery because their brain is engaged in the novelty of the new environment.

There are some things that you can do to get your husband’s mind back on you. Change your hairstyle and or color. Do some type of outside activity that forces the both of you to breathe deeply.  Go for a walk in a dense forest to cleanse your spirit. Men are visual beings.

I don’t think that you need to worry about him straying from home, but this is just a sign that there is room for an improvement in your physical relationship with your husband. This is part of the human experience. It is very wise of you to notice these signs.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari

Transmitted via Cassandra George Sturges

For entertainment purposes

Joseph Kony 2012 is an Unanimity Angel

Dear Jungle Beauty Goddesses:

I am not sure which one of you should answer this question, but what I would like to know is: if God is all powerful and all knowing, why would he allow Satan to destroy the lives of innocent children through the war rebel, Joseph Kony in Uganda?  Does God really exist and if He does—does He care about what happens to not only the Invisible Children in Uganda, but people all over the world who are suffering?

Fed up with this world

Dear Fed Up,

We, the Jungle Beauty Goddesses, define Joseph Kony an “Unanimity Angel” created by God to bring people from all over the world together in harmony with a shared view where no one disagrees about what is wrong or right.  People have united from all over the world in an effort to help the invisible children of Uganda become visible to the entire world.

If you look at the ethnicity, race, social class, gender, and political views of all the people in this Youtube video you will clearly see that the majority of these people would have never met; and if they did happen to meet by chance, they would have felt that they had nothing common. In fact, they would have been invisible to each other.

Most humans see themselves as being separate from people who do not share their religious beliefs; look like them, dress like, behave like them, or think like them. The Unanimity Angel , Joseph Kony, is deceiving humans into thinking that he is a horrible person, so that humans would be given an opportunity  to unite, bring about a positive change in the world, and recognize the humanity and goodness within themselves.

Not only does God exist, Goddess also exist inside of each human being--  incarnating Himself to help humans evolve spiritually, physically, psychologically, technologically, and biologically.

If you want to feel close to God, start utilizing the Goddess spirit inside of you by helping the millions of people in the world who are suffering.  God will stop sending Unanimity Angels to earth like Hitler, Attila the Hun, and Joseph Kony when humans no longer need them to feel appalled enough to help their fellow neighbor.

How many invisible people do you ignore on a daily basis who could benefit from your services? How many times have you gone out of your way to help a person in need or tried to make someone else’s life easier without media attention or accolades? Humans do their best work when they know that they are being watched by others.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Namib & Sahara

Translated to Cassandra George Sturges

 For Entertainment Purposes Only

Should I choose my Brother or my Best Friend?

Dear Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari,

I am a 36-years-old female and my best friend since 6^th grade (who has always had a crush on my brother) is cheating on her husband with my brother. My best friend wants me to cover for her by telling her husband that she is spending the night with me, when in fact she is sleeping at my brother’s place. What bothers me the most is that my brother has confided in me that he is not interested in any long-term relationship with my friend and just wants to fulfill a childhood sexual fantasy. My friend is madly in love with my brother and questions me as to why my brother doesn’t return her phone calls.

I am very close to my brother and my best friend. I don’t want to be in the middle of this mess what should I do?

P. C.

Dear P.C.

Your best friend’s reckless affair with your brother has definitely damaged your friendship with her because it violates the essence of what creates a true friendship. The magic that changes a stranger to a friend is a combination of shared experiences, truths, trust, loyalty and integrity. None of us select our relatives, however, through DNA, genes, and our blood line nature created your biological connection with your brother. 

So no matter what happens, he will always be your brother even when you are disgusted and angry with him. His children, if he has any, will always be your nieces and nephews who deserve your love. Friendship is special, fragile and extremely precious and when you can no longer trust your friend or feel like you are violating your friend’s trust by not revealing how your brother really feel about her, this creates an empty void in the depth of how you communicate with her. A soulful, heart-touching sincerity will be missing in how the two of you communicate with each other.

Back up from both relationships. Tell your friend that you don’t feel comfortable lying to her husband. Tell your friend and your brother that you must refrain from listening to anymore details about their relationship with each other because you love them both and you feel that their relationship violates your own integrity because you are loyal to both of them.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Kalahari, Ruler of the Heart

Transmitted via Cassandra George Sturges

Should I pursue my dream even if it does not pay enough money?

Jungle Beauty Goddess, Namib, I know what I want to do with my life but I am afraid that what I want to do with my life does not pay enough money to earn a decent standard of living? Should I pursue my dream anyway?

Everything that you want to do has the potential for you to earn enough money to provide the type of lifestyle that you desire. The question that you should be asking yourself is whether or not you are willing to take on the degree of dedication, commitment, accountability and hard work to earn a substantial amount of money. If you enjoy cleaning, you can own your own cleaning company; write a book about teaching that is turned into a movie. You can bake cookies for someone else, or manage your own a bakery.

Every field of industry has examples of people who earn very little to people who earn millions of dollars and in between. The amount of money that you are aiming to make will be directly tied to how you spend your free time and hard you are willing to work before the money manifests itself in material form.

Whenever you use money as a gauge to determine your level of success, it is not as likely to be a joyful endeavor.

Jungle Beauty Goddess Namib

Qattara Why Did Whitney Houston die so young?

Qattara, I don’t understand why Whitney Houston had to die so young and beautiful. I miss her so much. She had so much more to give.

Jenny 

Dear Jenny

The soul arrives to earth with a one way ticket back home. Once it has fulfilled its mission it will release its body. Whitney Houston and Davy Jones died weeks apart. They lived opposite lifestyles. Mr. Jones was assumed to be very healthy and Ms. Houston was assumed to be very unhealthy. Nothing and no one can force a soul to remain on earth beyond its expiration date.

Humans may improve the quality of their time in the human body through exercise and proper nutrition but they cannot extend the quantity of their time once their purpose has been fulfilled.

The God gave Whitney Houston one of the most powerful voices in the world and her soul’s mission was to play her vocal chords until they could no longer play. And once Whitney Houston’s vocal chords had played all of its beautiful songs her mission was to return home.

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Why Jungle Beauty Goddesses

By Cassandra George Sturges

I believe that all… and I do mean “ALL” people have emotional, psychological, economical, or biological issues or problems that we try to alleviate through self-expression. Whether we try to heal ourselves by the way we dress, sing, dance, teach, write, or counsel others … at the end of the day … we are desperately trying to heal ourselves by sharing our gifts, talents, and skills with others.

As an African American woman born in the1960’s in Detroit, Michigan I learned that beauty and power were two primary characteristics that did not belong to Black women. All the super heroes that I admired and all of the beautiful women that I aspired to look like never looked like me.

I was always teased because of my dark complexion growing up. It has taken well over thirty-five years for me to learn how to love myself, as I am. Creating the Jungle Beauty Goddesses is my way of collecting the psychological debt that is owed to women of color who have silently fought to feel validated as women who exude beauty and power over their feminine destiny.

I have shown pictures of the Jungle Beauty Goddesses to African Americans to only hear comments such as, “why did you make them so dark,” “how can they be Guardians of human-kind given that they are Black?”

No one has ever questioned Superman’s ability to protect the world because he is a white man. Why wouldn’t I make their skin tones variations of women of color? I am a woman of color and to make them look any different would be an insult to God.