Hillary and President Bill Clinton Perfect Marriage

What is Marriage--Bill and  Hillary Clinton--Let me Explain

By Cassandra George Sturges

 My boyfriend and I have been together for twenty years. The question people ask me the most is- Is he married? Translation: Are you having an affair with a married man? Are you the other woman? Side Chick? Does he love you? Why won’t he marry you? Are you not good enough to be his wife? One of my ex-friends said; you are his Jungle Bunny Concubine Whore,”-- to my face.

Before I defend myself for not marrying again, let me first tell you what I think marriage is. Marriage is a legal institution of accountability, trust, dedication, and commitment to another person’s well-being, dreams, goals, and personal growth. You are also the benefactor of their debt, tax breaks, success, and failures.

 

Couples who marry should share the same vision and have the same basic worldview and values about democracy, religion, and raising children.  

Marriage is like having a child. When you decide to have a child, you don’t know what that child’s life will be like. 

They may have an intellectual disability or be a genius; they may be straight or gay; they may be a mass murderer or a spiritual leader—you have no idea. However, when you choose to buy a ticket to the institution of parenthood—you are taking a vow and making a commitment to the well-being of another human—to the best of your ability. It is what it is. No turning back.

I am not saying that you should stay in an emotionally or physically of abusive marriage. Not at all. But when you find the right person and the good outweighs the bad—yes, I believe that your commitment to the big picture should take precedent over minor details.

To me marriage is not about how much you Love a person. Marriage is about how much you Like a person.

I have always said, in my opinion—Hillary and Bill Clinton—have the perfect marriage. Yes, President Bill Clinton cheated on Hillary with Monica Lewinsky. But, marriage is not about only  being able to love a person who is sexually faithful to you—marriage is about having a dream so big- that nothing on the outside can tear it down. This is why it is called the institution of marriage.

I heard rumors that Hillary Clinton dealt with Bill in private—something this new generation of social media knows nothing about.

Why should she break up her marriage over a blowjob? Why should Hillary let some meaningless sexual liaison, with an intern destroy all of  the hard work and dedication that it took to build their careers and family—brick-by-brick.

Besides, just between us--shhhhh-- I don't think women who are extremely ambitious and focused on their careers make the best wives. We can be very selfish and self-absorbed.

This is why it is so important for couples  to share the same vision for the future that is so much bigger than the marital relationship—whether it is simply raising your kids and putting them through college—or becoming president of the United States.

I think many people think Hillary Clinton was stupid or weak for staying with President Bill Clinton. I totally disagree, I think only a woman with high aspirations, integrity, and gritty- guts could possibly have the strength to remain with her husband who publicly humiliated her.

Hillary saw the big picture. Her, husband was president at the time. Condemning him publicly was going to hurt a nation of people. I feel in my spirit she reprimanded him—in private—not for the world to see or hear. This was none of our business. Unfortunately, men and women cheat on each other every day. It took less intelligence for President Bill Clinton to cheat; than the foresight and wisdom that it took for Hillary to forgive him.

Another reason why I am happy that Bill and Hillary Clinton remained married is because during a divorce all of the dirty details of their marriage would have been available for public consumption. This would have destroyed both of their legacies. Additionally, I think they are so much more powerful together as a unit of experience, education, and wisdom than they would have been apart.

As a divorced woman, I can only speak for myself, but in my opinion when something that was united is broken a part it leaves both parties bruised and battered.  I think completely healing from a divorce is almost impossible especially if you really meant it when you said, “I do.”

The same magnitude of strength that is required to stay married is the same level of dedication and commitment that is required to run a country. I have always loved Hillary Clinton.

I don’t think you can find the right person to marry until you first know who you are and what you want out of life. Even If you find the right person the relationship will not work until you have deeply accepted who you are as a human being-- not who you want to be-- or wish to be—but all of your flaws. When you are able to really appreciate and accept who you are, you will attract the right person to you.

Because marriage is an institution it comes with a societal handbook filled with rules, red tape, and expectations whether you like them or not. Marriage does not belong to the couple. When a couple takes marital vows, they belong to the institution of marriage and all of its benefits, liabilities, and expectations.

I know that if I was married, I would not be able to spend all of my free time making dolls and writing science fiction. There is no freakin’ way; I would let my husband come home from work to a house without prepared meals. I would make sure my husband’s laundry is done on schedule, unlike my own.

Yes, I am not ashamed to say that I have had to buy to new clothes because my laundry is not done. Why?  Because when I am sewing and writing,  I am possessed with a creative energy that makes it hard for me to eat or bathe sometimes. Seriously.  I am so deeply enriched and saturated with my artistic endeavors that sometimes I lose the ability to concentrate on anything else.

When I first started sewing and writing science fiction, I struggled with getting to work on time. I am so happy that this creative energy force was not a part of my life prior to having my children. I would have been a horrible mom—I am not even sure I would have decided to have children—who are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Now I understand why writing and sewing did not become a part of my life until my late 40s. Now that I am fifty, I can dedicate and commit myself to my muse’s midnight to 6am play schedule.

I love my boyfriend and I know that he loves me. Nobody knows what he goes through. Sleeping in between doll heads, body parts, (Mind you—my Jungle Beauty Goddess characters are life size dolls. The men are taller than my boyfriend is and he is 6 ‘2. And yes, they are all anatomically correct) and me getting into bed with cold feet when he is getting up for work.

Marriage is for sane, mature, responsible adults. It is not for moody, whimsical, beings who need an abundance of playtime alone.

We are sexually faithful and committed to each other. I love his son and his girlfriend and he loves my children. We have watched each other grow old, gray, bald, and fat with pleasure.

We not only love each other;  we like each other. It has been 20-years of renewing those vows every single day. I may have been a shitty wife—but I am an awesome girlfriend.