Life Quote of the Day - 3 Types of Truth

Life Quote of the Day: 3 Types of Truth

“Truth is like a surgery. It hurts but cures. Lie is like a painkiller. It gives instant relief but has side effects.”  Curiano.com

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I love this quote. However, I think telling both lies and the truth is absolutely necessary. Maybe it’s the wine, menopause, or a combination of both-- at this juncture in my life I am leaning in favor of telling little white lies more so than telling the truth—depending on the situation.

You don’t just tell people the truth if you think that their babies are ugly or that they really do look fat in those jeans, or that their speech was boring. When it is just your opinion about the way a person looks or expresses him or herself, I think you should find something lovely to say or say nothing at all.

Here are some times that I wish I had lied. I wish that I had not told a girl in my high school gym class that she smelled like fish. I really, regret that. If you are reading this blog, I just want to tell you that I am profusely sorry for telling you that. I was wrong. I am so sorry. Please forgive me.

I regret admitting to a family member that their father was cheating on their mom—even though they begged me to tell the truth. To this very day, I wish I had lied. It was not my place to tell you what your heart already knew to be true. We have never spoken again since this day and her parents stayed together.

I had a crush on a young man in my freshman year in high school. He asked me to come over to his house to visit him. I asked him why should I come over to see you. He insisted that he just wanted company.

I don’t know why; but I kept badgering him to tell me the “real reason” that he wanted me to come over. He admitted to me that the girl whom he was crazy in love with had stood him up and he needed company to get over her. Ouch!!! Even as I write this 35 years later, I still feel the sting from his truth. I though he was going to say  something like, “Cause I miss you girl or you looked cute in class today.”

No. I didn’t go over to his house—that day ;) –but I didn’t speak to him for weeks. I still can’t believe that he had the audacity to tell me the cold hard truth. I was devastated.

Here are 3 types of truth:

The Machete: the sharp, clean blade that cuts like a knife. What you are about to say is not your personal opinion, it is life or death, and or the deed has already been done and now you must focus on how to move forward.

The Club: used to beat you down and bludgeon your self-esteem and self-worth. This is completely your personal opinion about the matter. You are using the truth as a punitive tool to hurt or emotionally manipulate another person.

The Spoonful of Sugar that helps the medicine go down is a polite way of telling people what they need to hear in hopes that they can read between the lines and or telling them only what they need to know at the moment.

Life Quotes Practical Application

1.      I think the Club is the most common method people use to tell the truth. I can handle constructive criticism. As a matter of fact, it is my favorite subject. You can say, why don’t you try doing it this way, or painting it another color. I love it when someone gives me an honest opinion and then tell me what he or she think I can do better. If you know there is nothing I can do about it and it is not life threatening-- not only should you keep it to yourself; don’t tell other people how much you hated it and let it get back to me. If your “truth” is going to hurt someone else’s feelings—just keep it to yourself. If what you are going to say about some one’s art, song, book, clothes, hair, body, and so forth is not going to pull a person up and make them feel good—why use your truth to beat someone down?

2.    If my life or my love one’s life is on the line—use the Machete-- I need the cold, hard, truth that cuts like a knife. I want the facts only. Give it to me straight, don’t mince your words and tell me when I am completely alone. I don’t ever want bad news in front of any one. I like to take in unpleasant information by myself. If there is either nothing of us can do about what has been done, or the situation— lay it on the line. I need the essential details and my options.

3.    If I ask you how I look in a dress that is questionable for a variety of reasons-- suggest another dress. Put a little sugar on the truth. When I am leaving the house, I need to feel good about myself. If I spend all day in the kitchen, cooking and I ask you how was dinner—don’t tell me that it needed salt. Find one thing that you loved about the dinner in particular and tell me how much you liked it. If I offer to make it again, say hey, I think you should add salt, etc… Timing is the most important factor when using the Spoonful of Sugar truth method.

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