Love Quote of the Day - All relationships go through hell - real relationships get through it

Love Quote of the Day:

“All relationships go through hell, real relationships get through it.”

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“Why doesn’t she just leave him?” “I don’t know how he puts up with her.” I hear young people say these things all the time. I know it’s unimaginable for this young generation to understand that you just don’t block and delete real people from your life whom you really love.

I think that one of the primary reasons that young people today are having such a hard time finding, and keeping loving relationships and friendships is because they learned most of their communication skills through social media-- and what works online, does not work offline in real relationships.

You take off your avatars, your masks, and you fight for your relationship. Nope. You don’t use emojis and memes to communicate your inner most thoughts and feelings, you use your own words even if your voice shakes. I am not just talking about intimate relationships; I am talking about friendships too.

Most people feel naked when they take off their clothes. Nevertheless, this is the most insignificant and superficial way to reveal one self. You will never feel more naked, vulnerable, and afraid than when you tell someone your deepest truth. When you admit that, you are jealous when your mate appears to be attracted to someone else, or that you simply need them.

We treat colleagues, acquaintances, and familiar strangers (mail-persons, cashiers, etc) in a politically correct manner. We tell them what we think they need and want to hear. However, you go home and tell your mate or closest friend the real truth: that you hate your boss, your true religious and political views, and how bad you felt about yourself for not standing up for what was right at work that day.

If you really love someone and you know that that person loves you-- jump in the fire and fight for your relationship. Yes, you both will walk away with a few burns and bruises. However, what you leave behind in the ashes are all the issues attached to your egos that would have eventually become the emotional walls of separation.

I think when a couple or friends choose to stay together and work through their problems this is a sacred act of divine love, maturity, and wisdom that is nobody’s business but the people involved. As observers, we only see the outside of their relationship. We hear them arguing over politics, who forgot to take out the garbage or pay the cable bill.

We don’t see the intimacy between them, or hear the bad jokes that only the two of them get; and the darkest secrets they tell only to each other.

I always tell people that you can gauge how close you are to someone not by how well you get along, but by how well you get along after a fight (not a physical fight). When you have an authentic relationship with someone, where you can be very honest with them and they can be very honest with you—in a respectful and loving manner—this is a relationship that is worth fighting for.

I do agree that there are circumstances where we should simply leave our relationships and friendships behind. However, I think if you talk to any couple or close friends who has been together for a long period of time, if they are honest with you, they will admit that their relationship has been through hell and back and they are stronger closer because of it.

Life Quotes Practical Application

1.      If what you are fighting about now is not going to be important 10 years from now—trust me – it’s not a big deal. Forget about it. Negotiate a truce; don’t let something minor fester into something major whereby no one will remember why it even started in the first place.

2.     When you fight about a topic and the both of you come to an understanding, don’t keep bringing up the past. Nothing can destroy a friendship or intimate relationship faster than bringing up and arguing about old issues, fights, and disagreements. If you can’t let the issue go, let the person go. You both deserve better.

3.    When you are wrong (and we all are every now and then), don’t just expect the other person to forgive you. Change your behavior to make it easy for them to forgive you.

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